Tootfinder

I attended a classmate's memorial service today. I was there because he was important to my life 25 years ago, but sitting there listening to people describing the life of someone I'd lost touch with years ago evoked a vivid feeling of sonder—"the feeling one has on realizing that every other individual one sees has a life as full and real as one’s own, in which they are the central character and others, including oneself, have secondary or insignificant roles". (

"Any centralized communication platform, particularly one operated for profit, is vulnerable to being coopted by the powerful. This might mean exploiting users to maximize short-term profits or changing moderation rules to silence marginalized people and promote hate speech. The past year has seen unprecedented numbers of users fleeing X, Reddit, and other platforms over changes in policy. But leaving these platforms, whether in protest, disgust, or boredom, leaves behind an important d…

I just got a nasty DM out of nowhere from a former friend that I had a falling out with. They blocked me before I could respond.
The thing is this is just another harassment towards an already overly harassed and maligned trans woman. They could’ve just blocked me and moved on. I have nothing but kindness for this individual and all I get is harassment. Why can’t people be kind?

@… as far as I remember from when I was following Kamil more closely over there, for each individual thread there were a couple of people requesting this before the thread was even complete. I guess this might be a particular synchronisation issue, but I can live with that